The Courtship Period

Marriages are sure made in heaven, but what happens before that?

My family and I had a list of “Should Be” for the prospective groom.  He should be a post graduate by qualification and not just an engineer; the family should be working class and not into business; Chandigarh based family; and what not. To this I had added one more- the guy’s mother should also be working, so that she could understand and encourage me to work too.

One or more of these “Should Be” were struck out every time a guy was being considered unlike when we came across Anuj. He met all the “Should Be”(s). Yay!!!!

After everything was finalized and the Roka done (when I got “Booked”), did the “Should Be” end there? You know the answer, “NO”. (For Anuj, “Nhi”)

  

                                     

So now, new things came up. Will he talk to me? How often? What will we talk about? What does he expects from me? How should I react to his questions? What did he mean, when he said that? Is he offended? Can I say this to him? And what not…

Next came the wedding preparations. What, how, when, why started again.

And now as the D-day is approaching, new questions pop-up in my mind. That “Oh so perfect look”, how much to smile, where to look when I am there, how to sit, whose feet do I have to touch and many many many more.

Engulfed in these anxieties and excitements, the courtship period is a roller coaster ride that brings surprises, tickles you in the stomach, makes you scream, make you smile and in the end leave you yearning for more. It’s an experience in itself where you Expect the Unexpected.